I read an article on Psych Central’s Weightless blog called Why Weight-loss & Diet Commercials Are Dangerous that I just had to talk about tonight.
I totally agree with it 100% and I will tell you why.
I have been overweight most of my life. I was always told by supposedly well-meaning people that life would be so much better when I lost weight. That if I lost weight it was the BEST THING I COULD DO FOR MYSELF.
More important than having a family?
More important than being loved?
I had thought once that losing the weight would make things perfect. It would get rid of my depression. It would solve everything! I would be happy and someone would love me and I would live happily ever after.
It did not happen that way as almost 4 years of blogging about depression have shown me. In some ways it made me feel worse about myself. I never lived up to my high expectations of myself and shamed myself at my “lack of self control”.
Being at a healthy weight would be good for me health wise but I am so much more then what a commercial would tell would tell me that I should feel about the process of losing weight. I am not going to be Janet Jackson when I lose weight.
I want to be known as a good person. I want to be known as smart, funny, friendly, anything but pointing out my faults.
I am going to lose my weight the healthy way. I am going to take care of myself because I deserve it. It will not cure Mom. It will not cure my deep issues.
My life is not going to be perfect or solve my problems when I lose weight. I wish advertisers would just stop trying to make me think that I only need weight loss to save me.
My life is more than weight-loss and being fat.